Notes on Life and Learning Lessons Chapter 6

Waiting for the

“Right Man” to Love

One day,

…a student enrolled in one of my classes requested me to read her palm. Since I was in a rush, I asked her what she wanted foremost to know. She told me to look first into her lovelife. After looking at the lines associated with this part of her life and cross-checking it with other sources, I told her that on her 26^th or 27^th year, she would meet someone who was an old flame. This man loved her once somewhere in the distant past.

Then she asked, “Ah, is he my soulmate?”

She looked very serious and I half-smiled at her. Then I replied, “Consider him one, among others, who crossed your path a few times, sometime, far back in time. In those few times that you met, at least in one lifetime, he loved you deeply.

“Will we get married?” she quickly followed up.

She was getting quite excited. I seriously answered, “The law of karma can only make you and him meet again at a certain point in time. The outcome of that meeting will definitely depend on your free will as well as on his. Such is the relationship between karma on one hand and free will on the other. Either you are scheduled to meet again to solve a problem between yourselves that has remained unsolved in a previous relationship from another lifetime or you meet again to continue an old happy love story which you have desired and have decided upon in another lifetime.”

She asked again, “But why so late, at 26 or 27? I am only 18 now and I cannot seem to wait that long.”

I paused for a while and thought about the strong tendency of young people nowadays to be impatient and impulsive. Then I told her, “In many cases, when we rush, we make mistakes. When we read a book too fast, we miss many important ideas. When we copy something too fast, we miss some words or copy wrongly. If we run too fast, the chances of tripping are higher. If we eat too fast, we get indigestion. The same is true for love. When you rush for it, when you give yourself to someone you barely know and get intimate with him right away, your chances of committing a mistake are very high. Chances are the man is only good at the beginning. Being fooled leaves a very deep wound in the heart and such a wound takes a long time to heal. It is good to be careful with matters of the heart. It is good to take time to know more of the man. So much happiness, as well as so much pain, depends on choosing the right man.”

Someone wisely said, “Take time to look for the right person as well as be the right person.”

I paused for a while, reflecting on why soulmates usually meet later in life. They meet, oftentimes, from the mid-20’s to the early 30’s.

“There is always a good reason why certain important things come to your life at a specific point in time. Perhaps, at more or less 26 to 27 years of age, both of you will be mature enough to discuss and resolve correctly certain important matters. Then the chances of successfully solving an old problem or successfully continuing an old beautiful love story are greater.

“The right person does not necessarily have to be your soulmate. Consider the fact that the last time you were together with your soulmate was many, many years ago. While you might have been very happy with him at that time, between then and now, many things also happened to him. Many things had happened to you. He could have changed. You could have changed. All people change. Some change for good, some, unfortunately, for worse. So, when you meet him now, use your mind first before listening to your heart. Remember, regardless of whether he is your soulmate or not, the right man is the one who is sincere in his intentions and who will try his best to make you happy. He will try his best to be a good husband to you and a good father to your children. Remember, the right man is anybody with the right character.”

She looked serious for a while. Then I told her I had to leave. She smiled and thanked me.